As a psychologist with two decades of experience, I have heard variations of the same story from hundreds of women who walk into my office for help. They feel tired, bored, burned out, angry, frustrated, and unhappy. Year after year, I work with beautiful, intelligent, successful women (and men) who tell me they are disillusioned and unsatisfied. What’s even worse? They often don’t know why. I hear statement like, “It feels like I’m living groundhog day,” or “I should be happy. I have everything I thought I wanted.”
The truth is that the messaging we receive about what makes us happy is mostly a lie. If I was skinnier, I’d be happy. If I had more money, I’d be happier. If I was more beautiful, I’d be happier. If I didn’t have to work, I’d be happier. If I fit in with the popular group, I’d be happier. The problem? None of it is true and yet women spend their time and energy focused on these things instead of reaching their true potential.
Almost a decade ago, my world fell apart. Like most of my clients, I hadn’t been happy, despite following every rule society had given me. I was skinny, educated, and married with two children. I had a nice house and a condo in the mountains. I had an advanced degree, but stayed home to raise my children because we didn’t need the extra income.I checked off every single box the world had told me I needed to in order to be happy. My dirty little secret was that I wasn’t happy.
As a psychologist, I dug into the research on happiness. I talked to the happiest people I knew. I analyzed and learned. It became clear that what actually helps us thrive and feel joyful is unrelated to the messages that we, as women, receive from the world. True empowered happiness comes from having joy (Pleasure), working at something you care about (Accomplishment), having relationships that energize and support you (Connection), and moving your body (Exercise). These are the things that I worked on relentlessly until I had a life I loved.
Everything we need is within our reach. We are all capable of having real happiness, though it requires work. Most importantly, it requires knowing what to work on! Life is not about having more things or being skinnier. It is not about control or perfectionism. It requires having bravery, letting go of fears, and focusing on a different set of goals.
I’m so excited to finally bring the work I’ve done with hundreds of clients over the past decade to an online, teachable platform. My PACE process course will give you the tools to overhaul your life and stop feeling stuck in a lifetime of “I’m fine.” Fine is not enough! The PACE process will help you make the changes needed to feel excited about your life.
If you are 100% ready to start your happiness journey; to build a life that makes you want to get up in the morning, start my PACE Process course today!